I recently had lunch with a friend of mine — a 20-something, handsome, college educated male whose smile can bring sunshine on a dreary day, his somewhat dry sense of humor can lift your spirits and whose overall kindness and generosity I find rare nowadays. He’s looking for love — a love that lasts a lifetime, binds your heart and soul and makes an unbreakable connection with someone. And he wants to be in love — that glorious state of nirvana when your heart skips a beat at the sound of your partner’s name, when the phone rings, an unexpected text or email arrives and when you see them your soul feels like it’s melting. The feeling of bliss and lightness, a natural high that seemingly puts a smile on your face even while you’re alone.
My dear friend admits to never being “in love” and thinking that when he meets that special someone he should have the almost immediate feeling of being in love. What a conversation we had…for love takes time. How much time do you ask? Well, that depends. It depends on what I like to refer to as the mathematics of love. A simple formula, built over your own personal timeline.
Are you in love?
How long did it take you to go from lust to love?
Do you believe in lust?
We’d love to hear your experience(s) — does love > lust? I think it does. I think my friend is beginning to understand this as well. Here’s to him finding the love of his life — over time — with all the mathematics of love.
Written by Ms. Renee Vevea, glad to put her minor in math to good use and a believer in love over lust.